Once in a while someone will confess in an intimate moment, “Everyone thinks I am very quiet and composed, but if only they knew how I really feel…” This nagging self-doubt is at the basis of so much depression in the lives of many people who are struggling in our competitive society. Moreover, this corroding fear for the discovery of our weaknesses prevents community and creative sharing. When we have sold our identity to the judges of this world, we are bound to become restless, because of a growing need for affirmation and praise. Indeed we are tempted to become low-hearted because of our constant self-rejection. And we are in serious danger of becoming isolated, since friendship and love are impossible without a mutual vulnerability.
—Out of Solitude, Henri Nouwen
I was reading this last night in a collection of thoughts and remembrances about Henri Nouwen. I can’t say that the ENTIRE passage resonates with me (only b/c I’m still processing some of it) but enough of it does that I wanted to share.